February 14, 2023

The Key to Satisfaction

I’m going to get really honest with you.

What we’re talking about might seem pretty basic, but for years I couldn’t see what was right in front of me. Deep down I knew what I really valued, but without the structure or accountability to flesh it out and get really honest with myself, I just kept doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results and greater fulfillment. I couldn’t see myself in the mirror for a long time. It took some hard lessons and disappointments to get my attention.

I don’t think I’m alone in this. 

Last week I wrote about this connection between self awareness and values…how getting clarity on both inevitably brings more fulfillment to your life. I even gave you a fun exercise to test the waters on how well you knew certain things about yourself.

Maybe you passed with flying colors and maybe you learned something new about yourself. You may be wondering how questions about books and favorite moments lead to feeling better about your life and work?

As I said before, all roads lead back to values. Knowing what small things cause us curiosity and resonance, often leads us to the big answers. 

The truth about values

The truth is that living out our values is the key to satisfaction. 

Values are defined as things you believe are important in the way that you live and work. Values are a compass – they set the direction for the decisions you make about where you invest your time, energy and $$. 

When we don’t know or live according to what we really care about, here’s what it looks like: TIME + ENERGY spent on low values  = DISCONTENTMENT

This might mean:

  • You value being a parent over work, but you miss 70% of your kids’ sporting events for meetings.
  • You believe saving $ is important, but there’s nothing left over at the end of the month.

When we DO name and live by our values, instead we’re looking at this compelling formula: TIME + ENERGY spent on HIGH values = FULFILLMENT

It may be simple, but you’d be surprised how many people have never considered this, much less examined the deep connection here of cause and effect.

This matters

The bottom line – this MATTERS so much. You can’t get clarity without it. When you name and align your life with your values, 5 things happen:

  • You become a pro at decision making. A strategic filter of values makes it easier to know what to do next.
  • You gain clarity and purpose. Knowing what you know helps you lean into what’s meaningful.
  • You build confidence. People can sniff out authenticity immediately and showing up as the best and most genuine version of yourself is extremely attractive and compelling.  
  • You build trust. People believe that who you say you are is also what they experience.
  • You make real progress. Knowing what’s important helps you affect real change.

Discontentment is at an all time high right now. The world has never seen the level of outside influences existing today with social media distracting us with others’ lives and opinions. The best and the brightest admit to their shared vulnerability here.

We can’t let other people’s values and ideas guide us, WE have to decide. WE have to control our narrative and choices. 

This takes a lot of intention and we want to help. Book a call with me to hear what it’s like to explore values. Your next leap is waiting on you.